so far i dont get notified about people responding to me on the forums, can we have this option some how or am I stupid and cant find this function ?

It's just not in yet. The forums are running early beta, and our mail handling classes are under reconstruction and shortly inclusion into a future release to ensure they don't send out gibberish on some platforms. E-mail handling can be a royal pain in the assembly line, and any sort of mass notification systems need to be done just right to prevent catastrophes in spammer situations or possible future vulnerabilities. I try to keep fancy & solid in balance, I'm sure everyone can appreciate the thought. =)